Haw meni taims hev yu filt engri wit yor self bikoz yu wert u sai tu spik ap wen yu rili wonted tu hav tu konversasion wit aders persen? Ar partis taims for stending in de korner end wotcing aders cat end dens – efreid tu join dem? Du yu lisen tu diskasions bat du not giv yore pinion bikoz yu ting yu ar not smart inaf? Du yu wis yu bi frenli bat don nou hau? Ol dis dout lid tu anhepi filings.
Dis kain of anhepines kams ebaut not bikoz ader pipel ar traiying tu hert as. Wi mek dis anhepines for auerselvz. Natjureli, wi rili don tu hert auerselvz, bat often wi grup apt inking wi ar not es gud es aders – wi ar inferior; evriwan is beter, smarter, end mor interesting. Dis negativ doughs mek as sai. Wai du wi du dist u auerselvz? Psikologis ken diskaver de risens. It is interesting tu not det very larc nambers of pipel ar sai. Der is, hauever, gud nius. If wi won tu get rid of saines, it ken bi don.
Wi ken help auerselvz bi rid of saines. Nobadi is perfek, end evribadi hes gud kualitis. Is it feir to pei etension tu aur imperfeksions end overlook aur gud kualitis? Definitli not! De following saggesions mei bi helpful in redjusing saines:
1. Fers, anderstend det yu kennot eliminet saines overnait. It is e slou proses det yu mas work in gredueli.
2. Ting ebaut situasion wen biying sai is mos painful. Perhaps yor biges problem is making smol tolk wit e strenger et e parti. In det kes, priper yourself wit sam interesting karent nius tu tolk ebaut. De weder is e topic often just for starting konversasions.
3. Getting de ader persen tu tolk ebaut himself / herself is e kliver aidia. Meni pipel enjoi tolking ebaut demselves – or giving deir epinions. For eksampel, yu ken sei samting laik, ‘’ai notis yu laik modern jewelry, yor rings ar very anyusual. Did yu desain dem yourself?’’ Dis ken bi de star of e frenship.
4. Wenever yu bigen making negative komparisen bitwin yourself end aders, fors yourself tu stop duing det imediteli. Tek yor tough of yourself. Observ aders end ting of e komplimen with wich tu start e konversasion wit samwan.
5. If yu ar sai et work wer der ar meni kouworkes, cus de list intimidating persen tu de perhaps hev koffi wit or mek kasual smol tolk wit.
6. Nous det if in efert tu sosializ samtaimes is ansaksesful, it hepens tu evriwan nau end den. Fil proud of yourself for making de effort.
7. If yu ar rikwairid tu giv e riport tu e grup, tel dem dat yu fil nerves. Dis filing is kuait natural, end evriwan ken simpatiz. Ekspresing dat de grup wil mek yu fil beter.
8. Ting ebaut yor gud kualitis end biliv det yu ar es gud es eniwan els….Bikoz yu ar!
9. Tek e kors in developing self – konfidens or rid buks on de sabjek.
Laif is mac mor enjoiabel for pipel hu ar not sai.
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